Our Love/Hate Relationship with money

Sep 18, 2013

Do you hate money? Let’s face it, you don’t hate money. You hate not having money. What’s more is that you hate what some other people who don’t have money do in order to get it.

So why is it that so many of us have a negative relationship with money? How is the relationship with money affecting the choices we make? Is it possible that we are sabotaging ourselves and creating a self-fulfilling prophecy that keeps us broke?

The school system does not teach us finances and as a society, we are discouraged from discussing money with our peers. This means that unless you are lucky enough to have financially educated parents, the only financial education you get is from tv or worse yet, from credit card companies and banks that earn their living by helping us create debt.

Let’s just break it down a little. Money is just paper. The only reason that money has any value at all is because our society has given it value. Money equals value. Therefore, we can exchange money for anything of value… A table, a car, a haircut, food… in some cases, even people. If money didn’t exist then how would we get something of value? It is through giving value. You need to give to get.

Value is meant to be in motion. The same goes for money. If you have something of value but you don’t share it then you will receive nothing. If you hang on to money long enough, it’s value decreases with time as well. In order to keep it growing it must be used. The problem is that most of us use it to buy liabilities and luxuries. These things cost money to upkeep and they also cost us time to use.

What if we spent our money on increasing our own ability to create value? Through investing in ourselves we can learn new skills and develop talents that provide value in the lives of others. If we spend our extra time and money on making ourselves more valuable to others then it will also allow us to attract more money.

The money that we earn in our jobs is directly proportional to the value that the job has on the marketplace as well as the number of people willing to do that same job for the same pay. The more valuable the job is and the more difficult or time consuming it is to learn the skills needed to perform that job… like a doctor for example… the more money it earns. It’s called “supply and demand”.

Schools are definitely one way to increase your value but be careful. School is a business and they market courses as such. This means that just because a course is offered, that does not mean there is a job waiting for you when you complete the course. You must do the market research to find out if there is demand for this particular skill or knowledge.

I do recommend that you invest as much time and money as possible to grow your personal library. Find books that are empowering and uplifting. Find topics that are in demand in the workplace and find a mentor that has been successful and do what they do.

Always remember, that if you can find a way to provide more value, either directly or indirectly through teaching others, then you will attract as much wealth as you can handle and you’ll never “need” money again.

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